An ultimate guide to sex toys

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You can engage in BDSM play with or without sex toys. However, considering the nature of the concept, you should know that certain tools can enrich the whole experience. 

Whichever kink interests you, the use of sex toys can accentuate the division of roles it implies. You do not even have to be into pain play — there is a wide selection of BDSM toys that do not inflict any pain, yet are quite arousing.


The Market Is Your Smorgasbord

If you choose to include sex toys in your routine, you will have to research the subject thoroughly. Thanks to the expansion of the BDSM community, you have numerous options at your disposal. Not only do sex toys differ in terms of their purpose, but they also vary in design and material. These sex toys in the market are easily available online, and you can discreetly order them!

In the spirit of your sexual awakening, let us guide you through the selection of sex toys available on the market. Even if you are not into BDSM, you will find some of these toys more than useful.


Anal Plugs

If you like anal sex (or would like to try it), butt plugs, also known as anal dildos or anal plugs, will interest you. Although they resemble regular dildos, they are usually significantly shorter. In fact, you may worry that you can lose the toy inside your rectum when you see its size. If so, let us put your mind at ease. You can relax because anal plugs have flared ends to prevent them from getting stuck inside your body (and you from going to the emergency room). That being said, you should avoid using regular dildos for anal insertion. Butt plugs exist for a reason.

Every type of anal play (anal sex included) calls for lubrication. You should opt for a lubricant that is compatible with the material of your butt plug. Alternatively, you can choose a water-based product. Speaking of materials, there are silicone, wood, neoprene, glass, metal, stone, and latex butt plugs. Although the last ones are the most common, you may want to choose a silicone butt plug, as it is the easiest to use and maintain. Namely, whichever sex toy you include in your routine, you should make sure that the material of which it is made is non-porous. There are tons of resources online where you can find information about anal toys. You can always refer to them in case you want to know the latest products or safety guides for the best experience.



If you were to classify sex toys by popularity, dildos would probably rank the highest of all of them. They have been around for quite some time, but they have truly grown in popularity since the famous TV show “Sex & the City” empowered women everywhere and made them want to try them. Nowadays, the selection of dildos is broader than the selection of any other sex toys. They come in various shapes, sizes and colors, a variety of designs, and numerous materials. If you are a woman who is open about your sexuality, chances are you already have (at least) on at home.

Although you may think that a dildo is exclusively meant for masturbation, you are wrong. It is a perfect sex toy for couple play, whether you are straight or gay. You can enjoy the sensation of double penetration or experience vaginal and oral sex at the same time. Moreover, you can use a strap-on dildo to penetrate your partner or have them penetrate you. The possibilities this toy offers are almost infinite. In fact, they are even more numerous than the selection of different models you can find on the market.


Prostate Massagers

It is a little known fact that a man can achieve orgasm from prostate stimulation. However, the BDSM community is very well aware of it, which is why there is a male sex toy designed to reach and massage the prostate. It resembles an anal dildo, except that it has a curved head similar to a finger (fingering is the most common way of prostate stimulation). It also has a flared base so that it does not get stuck in your rectum. However, unlike traditional butt plugs, prostate massagers can have a vibrating feature, which some men find exceptionally pleasant.

In addition to anal prostate stimulation, there is a BDSM kink known as sounding. It has the same effect, but it is practiced differently. Namely, sounding refers to urethral prostate massage. Unlike butt plugs and prostate massagers, sounds are thin, because men insert them through their urethra. Aside from its sexual purpose, sounding also has its use in genital piercing (which can also be a part of BDSM play). Meanwhile, if  you are not into prostate massagers, you can look for other types of sex toys for masturbation online, so you can just enjoy wanking your meat instead.


Kegel Balls

If you are a woman, you must be aware of the importance of kegel exercises. Your pelvic floor muscles can weaken due to numerous factors, such as aging, weight gain, and pregnancy. That is why it is essential that you familiarize yourself with kegel exercises as soon as possible. Not only can they prevent conditions that weak pelvic muscles can cause, but they can also be the most effective way of treating them.

Women are fortunate enough to be alive in this day and age, because there are tools that can help them do their kegel exercises correctly, such as kegel balls. They are easy to insert and have a string that stays outside of your vagina so that you can remove them within seconds. 

However, improving your health is not the only purpose of kegel balls. They are also used as sex toys, and unlike many others, they can make your foreplay last for a whole day. You can insert them before a busy day at work and prior to a yoga class or a party. Remember, the more active you are, the more aroused you will become, and not just temporarily. Kegel balls can increase your sexual pleasure and intensify your orgasms in the long run.


Cock Cages

Even though it causes controversy, male chastity is one of the most popular BDSM kinks. Wearing a penis cage is the best way a submissive man can demonstrate his devotion to his master or mistress. Such a man wants his dom to know his sexuality is theirs to own. Knowing that his keyholder is the one who controls his pleasure makes him aroused and eager to remove the device. That is the whole point — a man’s inability to masturbate, have sex, and even get an erection makes a scene involving a cock cage exciting.

If you are in a BDSM relationship, you may want to lock your partner’s penis or have them lock yours. Depending on your agreement, the sweet suffering can last for up to a few days or even months if you like going into the extremes.

However, wearing a cock cage is not all fun and games. While in chastity, you must not disregard the importance of hygiene (although maintaining it may be a challenge). You need to keep both your penis and the device clean to avoid any possible infections.


Closing Thoughts

Engaging in BDSM can be exciting on its own, but adding certain sex toys in the mix can make it even more thrilling. However, whichever toy you choose, keep in mind that every scene has to be safe, sane, and consensual. Therefore, talk to your partner and gather information regarding your gear before you use it.

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